4个简单法则,打造完美情侣

设想你走在下班的路上，行人匆匆擦肩而过，你突然看到一对洋溢幸福气息的恋人走过来，两个人的手紧紧握在一起，空气中都散布着他们的甜蜜和美好。你的感觉是什么呢？看一眼就匆匆走过？还是撇撇嘴表示鄙夷但是整个晚上都愤恨着：他们为什么这么幸运？如果你正在为维护自己的恋情而焦头烂额，那么，你应该来学习一下这四个法则。

设想你走在下班的路上，行人匆匆擦肩而过，你突然看到一对洋溢幸福气息的恋人走过来，两个人的手紧紧握在一起，空气中都散布着他们的甜蜜和美好。你的感觉是什么呢？看一眼就匆匆走过？还是撇撇嘴表示鄙夷但是整个晚上都愤恨着：他们为什么这么幸运？如果你的反应是后者，那么你更应该反省内心：面对感情稳定幸福的一对儿，你很难强迫自己不去嫉妒，你是否正在为了维护自己的恋情而焦头烂额呢？

法则一：鼓励和赞美最重要

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男女刚刚陷入爱情的时候，必然会互相赞美对方的优点，随着关系固定下来，最初的温度略为下降之后，人们对这种事情就做得少了，尽管两个人仍旧十分倾心于对方，但是已经不会再大声地说出赞美和鼓励的话。

如果缺乏真心的赞美和鼓励，那么最初的赞美给彼此带来的美妙感受和感激之情就会大大降低，直接导致的结果就是两人的感情联系变得薄弱。

因此，必须多多鼓励对方，把他当作一个值得赞赏的对象，告诉他你对他身上的某个特点非常着迷，尤其是男性引以为豪但是很少能了解别人的看法究竟怎么样的方面，比如他良好的社交能力，不为人知的小癖好，甚至是他健美的身体。

举例：27的凯琳在这方面非常有心得：“每次看见男朋友穿上西装，我都会告诉他西装最适合他，还有他的嘴唇的形状非常性感。当我这样说的时候，可以明显看出他整个人都显得精神焕发。”赞美还有一个妙处就是它会被传染，经常给对方打气，他也会习惯于寻找你身上的闪光点并给予鼓励和赞赏。

法则二：想要什么你就说

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举例：娜娜最痛恨丈夫在入睡前不搂搂抱抱自己就直接睡觉。每当他忘记的时候，她就会气恼，不好好睡觉，甚至装病哭闹。而她莫名其妙的丈夫只会不断地问她：你到底哪里不舒服？

相信这一出戏剧场面你并不陌生。很多女人都跟娜娜一样，希望丈夫或者男朋友是一个超感知能力者，不需说明就可以做出她们喜欢的浪漫举动，但是，世界上有这种感知能力的人真的是凤毛麟角，他们不能在你的心里装上窃听器，随时破译你的心声。如果他们知道你在等着他破译，只会让他们哭笑不得。

在良好的情侣关系中，这种猜心游戏是坚决摈弃不用的，最稳固深切的爱情需要以没有障碍的沟通作为基础。需要什么、苦恼什么、希望对方说什么做什么，都是直接说出来的为好。你一言不发地自己生闷气会让对方无所适从而郁闷，容易引发矛盾和冲突。

法则三：无伤大雅的癖好可以无视

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夫妻或情侣长期生活在一起后，属于个人的习惯和癖好都会展现在彼此面前，无论他多么让你心神荡漾，共同生活才是考验你的耐心和包容性的一个开端。他可能每天早上都一边吹口哨一边打领带准备上班，也可能永远把用过的浴巾扔在地板上。无论是多么奇怪的小癖好，明智的女人都应该选择统统无视。你很快会发现对这些小事情睁

一只眼闭一只眼对你们的关系绝对是利大于弊。既然已经是多年形成的习惯，那么绝对没必要在这种事情上浪费时间大起干戈，不要因小失大。

举例：张丹丹的男朋友习惯一边开车一边跟着收音机的音乐在方向盘上打拍子，刚开始的时候这种习惯并没有引起她的注意，但是时间长了她感觉难以忍受，恨不得用头去撞车窗。“但是我习惯把眼光放开一些来看这个问题，他有那么多我喜欢的优点，怎么可能被这个小小的有点可笑的怪癖掩盖住呢？在这件事情上纠缠是得不偿失的。”

法则四：亲密不应该流于形式

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在爱情中，表达彼此爱意的最初都是从亲吻开始，应该注意的是，不要因为接触久了，就把亲吻当作做爱前的例行公事，要重视你们的每一个吻，每次接吻的时候都要真诚而温柔，永远像你们第一次亲吻的时候一样怀有激动和喜悦的心情。吻是一种很奇妙的行为，可以很好地表达出一种“我对你爱不释手”的情怀，对方会感觉你深深地被他吸引，同时他的爱也是你所渴望的。

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Imagine you walking on the way from work, pedestrians passing quickly, you suddenly saw a pair of the overflow of the flavor of happiness lover came over and the purchase often-expensive hold together of two people, in the air are strewn with their sweet and beautiful. What is your feeling? Take a look at it in a hurry walk? Or any pie pie but hate the whole evening: why are they so lucky? If you are to maintain their relationship, then,/, you should learn these four principles.

Imagine you walking on the way from work, pedestrians passing quickly, you

suddenly saw a pair of the overflow of the flavor of happiness lover came over and the purchase often-expensive hold together of two people, in the air are strewn with their sweet and beautiful. What is your feeling? Take a look at it in a hurry walk? Or any pie pie but hate the whole evening: why are they so lucky? If your reaction is the latter, you should reflect on the heart: in the face of emotional stability of a pair of happiness, it's hard to force myself not to envy, if you are in order to maintain their relationship with?

Rule 1: encourage and praise is the most important

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Just fall in love when men and women, is bound to extol the virtues of each other, each other with fixed relationship, the initial temperature slightly down, people will do in this kind of thing less,/, although still very enamored of the other two people, but has not to speak loudly praise and encouragement.

If the lack of genuine praise and encouragement, and then the initial praise with gratitude and wonderful feelings for each other will be greatly reduced, the result is that two people that are a direct result of the connection is becoming weak.

, therefore, must encourage each other a lot, think of him as a laudable object, tell him you for the way he was fascinated by a certain characteristic, especially men proud but seldom know what would happen to other people's opinions, such as the good social skills, unknown little quirks, even his muscular body.

Example: 27 Karen has a great experience in this respect: "every time I see boyfriend to wear a suit, I will tell him a suit is best for him, and the shape of his lips very sexy. When I say this,/, clearly appear throughout his whole being refreshed." Praise is also a beauty is that it will be infected, often cheer for each other, he will also be used to find the best in you and to give encouragement and praise.

Rule 2: to want what you say

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Example: nana hate her husband in not playing kissy-poo will directly go to bed before falling asleep. Whenever he forgot the time, she will be angry, don't sleep well, or even sick. And somehow her husband will only keep asking her: what's wrong with you?

Believe that the drama is no stranger to you. Many women are like nana, in the hope that her husband or boyfriend is a super awareness, do not need to explain can make their favorite romantic move, however, have the awareness of people in the world is really rare, they can't install bugs in your heart, ready to break your heart. If they know you are waiting for him deciphered, will only make them cry.

In a good relationship, the guessing game is resolutely rejected without heart, the most solid deep love needs with no barriers to communication as the foundation. What need, distress,/,hope the other party say what to do, is just say it as well. You yourself silently sulking will let the other side disoriented and depressed, easy to cause conflict and contradiction.

Rule 3: harmless addiction can be ignored

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Lovers or couples living together for a long time, the personal habits and tendencies of the exhibition now in front of each other, no matter how much he make your mind ripple, the common life is the test of your patience and tolerance of a beginning. Every morning he could whistle while a tie to go to work, also can never throw used towels on the floor. No matter how strange little quirks, sensible woman should be entirely ignored. You'll quickly discover these small things turn a blind eye to your relationship is absolutely not do more harm than good. Since has been formed the habit of for many years, so no need to waste time on such things a big war, don't be penny wise and pound foolish.

Example: Zhang Dandan boyfriend used to follow the music of the radio while driving beat time on the steering wheel,/, the beginning of this habit is not attract her attention, but after a long time she felt unbearable, very

anxious to head to hit the window. "But I used to look let some go to see the

problem, he has so many advantages, I like how can you get this little funny quirks disguised? On this entanglement is not worth the cost."

Rule 4: close should not become a mere formality

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In love, to express love to each other are initially started with a kiss, it should be noted that don't contact for a long time because it is over, take a kiss as a routine before sex, should pay attention to your every kiss, every time a kiss is sincere, gentle, like your first kiss forever with the mood of excitement and joy. Kiss is a very wonderful behavior, is a good way to express the feelings of a kind of "I couldn't put it down to you", the other party will feel you are deeply attracted by him, and his love is what you desire.

Mind coffee network point of view:

Maintenance relationship has its own know-how,/, learn from the happy lovers, with a caring heart to maintain relationship!

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